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Posted 04-08-2011 at 01:25 PM by Daxter King
Well I wasn't really expecting that, but at the same time anyone could have seen it from a mile away.

My parents are getting a divorce. I really don't know how to feel about it. I know that they had never really gotten along, hell they have slept in separate bedrooms for as long as I can remember. But at the same time this really shatters my current world. my mom just told me shes likely to get the house, i dont know how to feel. she doesnt work so i dont know how she will pay for anything, i guss money from my dad or some shit. im sure my dad will be able to find a new place and stuff, i just hope neither does anything crazy. god damnit. fuck i didnt know it would affect me this much. i still dont know if i am going to stay here or anything just dumping my thoughts
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Jordan's Avatar
I feel pretty bad when my parents argue, I can't imagine how you're feeling right now. I'm really sorry to hear about your parents. Stay strong.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 02:01 PM by Jordan Jordan is offline

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Disgruntled Intern's Avatar
Going through the same thing. It's weird, knowing that it's for the best, and even expecting it to happen, that when it finally does, it fucking ruins everything and makes each day smell like piss. Just try to keep your chin up and remember that no matter what happens this shit has not a thing to do with you, these are THEIR problems, and despite pulling a Switzerland seeming like a great idea, you'll ultimately wind up taking a side whether it's something you're consciously aware of or not. Brace yourself.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 02:29 PM by Disgruntled Intern Disgruntled Intern is offline

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enchilado's Avatar
My parents were never married.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 03:29 PM by enchilado enchilado is offline

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Wil's Avatar
My thoughts are with you. The day my mum told me she wanted to divorce my father she made my favourite dinner and told me when I was part way through. I couldn't finish. I went to my room to cry. I can still remember which TimeSplitters 2 challenge level was on pause the whole while she came up and talked to me about it.

For all my distress and fears at the time, I don't think I shed a tear about it since. Only felt awkward. From that point on I just knew it was the right thing for them. Not that I didn't try a couple of eensy things to help patch things up between them.

Reading my mum's filing for divorce when I had to include it in my probate application was fun. Finding out the date they last had sex helps explain why I never had the experience of walking in on them.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 04:18 PM by Wil Wil is offline

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Mr. Bungle's Avatar
My parents split up for about a year. I was about ten. It fucking sucked.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 06:32 PM by Mr. Bungle Mr. Bungle is offline

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Mac Sirloin's Avatar
My parents split about a year ago. It was uncomfortable, and there was a lot of anger back and forth, but I tried to keep neutral. Like DI said, don't let their shit bog you down. There's still tension between them (honestly, objectively my dad's fault). But they can communicate better.

If you ever want someone to talk to, I'm happy to lend a hand. I don't assume your mom and dad were in the same boat as mine, but nevertheless feel free to query.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 11:03 PM by Mac Sirloin Mac Sirloin is offline
Updated 04-08-2011 at 11:07 PM by Mac Sirloin

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Nate's Avatar
This appears to have turned in to a "Tell everyone about my parents' divorce" comment thread instead of a "Let's all give Daxter King some sympathy" one.

So, in that spirit... my parents seperated when I was eighteen. I wasn't shocked, as they'd had friction for years. Hell, they'd considered splitting up within years of getting married, before they'd even had kids.

There was some extreme shittiness for a few years until the divorce was final and there's been a cold peace since then. Ultimately, it's all for the best; they're both much happier apart than they were together.

If I can offer any advice, it's to not allow yourself to get in the middle of any mind games they may intentionally or unintentionally play. My parents would both bitch to me about the other and I would put up with it because I felt like they would be better off after having blown off some steam. Ultimately, though, it just became too stressful to continually hear about how much of a bastard my dad was when I was still going to be seeing him regularly - it was like my mum felt it was okay to say that stuff because she wasn't going to have contact with him ever again, but she'd forgotten that I had dinner with him every week (and vice versa, though my dad was actively trying to convince me to leave mum and move in with him). You have to be strong for the sake of your own sanity and say "No". Tell them words to the effect of "You may be talking about your ex, but s/he's still my mum/dad" and they should understand.

Also, you have my sympathies.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 11:15 PM by Nate Nate is offline

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enchilado's Avatar
My parents have never been married but they have been divorced.
Posted 04-08-2011 at 11:52 PM by enchilado enchilado is offline

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Dynamithix's Avatar
Sorry to hear that.

I've gotten used to this since my mom and dad divorced when I was 9. I knew the reason why and I just accepted it. I kinda wanted them to divorce, it was like hell listening to them argue and argue almost every night. I didn't even cry, I just felt empty. Of course I was sad, but not in a really bad way. Then things just moved on and now my parents are pretty much friends and I live with my mom. I think it's a lot better this way.
Posted 04-09-2011 at 01:26 AM by Dynamithix Dynamithix is offline

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T-nex's Avatar
Im really sorry to hear, Daxter. But I can assure you it will most likely get better after some time. You'll come to accept it. You'll maybe also hear both your parent's stories on why they split up, and it'll give you some understanding that it was the right move.
But still, Im sorry you're going through this. Even when you're 18 years old, it can be very depressing.

My parents split when I was 18 too. I was actually sort of happy when my parents split. I wanted them to split since I was a child. But that was mostly because I hated my dad since he was abusive and I wanted to live with my mom.
Either way... My dad had cheated on my mom and found a new lover which really shocked me, cos he was always so careful to teach me and my sister to be respectful to my mom.

Either way we were all really mad at my dad for a while. My mom also attempted suicide. Not so much cos she was sad of losing my dad. But she said she'd worked for 20 years to make everyone happy, and just as she thought things were getting better and she was getting her reward, everything just fell to the ground.
That was the first time I ever heard my dad cry. He was apologizing on the phone to us and told us he loves us. He's never said that either. It was weird.

Either way, They are both better off without each other. Apparently my dad has always been a sort of a dick to my mom. I was too absent minded to notice the drama untill it had already passed though.



Anyway now we can all group hug =)


It's strange how normal divorced parents have become. It's like everyone has to expect it sooner or later.
Posted 04-09-2011 at 07:50 AM by T-nex T-nex is offline

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Daxter King's Avatar
Thanks for the support everyone. I always knew it was coming, but I never really expected it, if that makes sense. I am really tired of being in the middle of their shit, but I am moving away for college, so I will probably see both of them less.

@Nate. They have already been doing that for years, like you I just let them blow steam off. Though, I've finally grown tired of it and refuse to be in the middle of their shit anymore. I'll probably take your advice if they continue to do it and say what you said.
Posted 04-09-2011 at 11:36 AM by Daxter King Daxter King is offline

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STM's Avatar
Shit can't believe I haven't read this yet. I wish you strength in this period of your life.
Posted 04-09-2011 at 11:47 AM by STM STM is offline

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MeechMunchie's Avatar
Yikes. Well, I hope you're holding up okay. I can't really relate, but I wish you the best of luck in keeping on top of things.
Posted 04-10-2011 at 01:47 PM by MeechMunchie MeechMunchie is offline

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ziggy's Avatar
I'm sorry about that bud. I can't know what that feels like either but I know at least that living in a home with arguing parents is very unpleasant as they tend to take their relationship frustrations out on you as well.
Posted 04-11-2011 at 07:39 AM by ziggy ziggy is offline

 




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